Three Things I’ve Learned About Love in Nine Years
Happy Thursday everyone and happy NINE YEAR anniversary to Josh and I! I’m not sure if anyone else out there still counts the anniversary they first started dating when they’re already married, but we do! (I still count months sometimes lol)
On this day, nine years ago, Josh asked me to be his girlfriend in the parking lot of our high school. I actually remember the exact light pole we stood under. And yes, I insisted that he ask–it wasn’t official until the question “Will you be my girlfriend?” was asked.
In just a few days we’ll celebrate ONE WHOLE YEAR of marriage! Over the past nine years,I’ve learned quite a bit about myself, love, and relationships.
You Learn to Love Them
Hear me out. Of course I pretty much loved Josh from the start. When I love, I love hard. As a senior in high school, I didn’t go into this relationship thinking we would break up (who does?). I went into it thinking and somewhat maybe knowing that we would get married one day. I guess we’re the lucky ones.
Josh didn’t tell me he loved me until we had been dating for two years. It was Valentine’s Day, before a fraternity date party, on his futon couch thing, when he gave me this David Yurman ring (affiliate link) and said the three words I’d been waiting to hear for what seemed like forever. I love you. Love is patient am I right?
And since that day, I’d like to think our love has evolved. I’ve learned to love Josh in the way he wants to be loved. His love language is different from mine and he doesn’t respond the same way I do when people give me gifts, tell me I’m pretty, and play with my hair. He enjoys quality time above all, words of affirmation and physical touch.
You Learn to Appreciate Them
It’s SO easy to take the people who are in your life day in and day out for granted. But over the years, I’ve learned that I’ve got it good. No, I’ve got it great. Josh is a hard-working man that I can’t wait to come home to in the afternoons. He’s reliable, smart, and kind. I can’t wait to see him be a father to our future children because I know he’ll be so great with them (I mean look at him with our dog-child).
When he goes out of town, I miss him. When he helps me clean the house or do the laundry or even hang the Christmas lights, I get ALL of the heart eyes. Our anniversary (both of them) is like a husband appreciation day. Because more than just loving him, I truly appreciate the way he cares for our little family and the little things he does for me.
You Learn from Them
When you’re with the same person for nine years, you learn things from them and even start picking up on their mannerisms. Because of Josh, I’d like to think I’m more athletic and have better hand-eye coordination. Because of me, I’d like to think he has better style and grammar.
From tossing dog toys back and forth, to playing football in the yard–it adds up people. And sometimes I surprise myself. I know more about sports than I care to, I can drive a boat, and know more football facts than I really want. He truly makes me a better person because he calls me out when I have a bad attitude and when I’m being petty about something.
Today, I’m counting my blessings and all of them have Josh written all over them.
What have you learned from being with your S/O? Let me know!