Two Christmas Lessons

We wrapped up Christmas number 3 with my family earlier this week. With different schedules and our family growing, Christmas isn’t the same as it was when I was little. But, while not the same, it’s not a bad thing. I’ve learned to create my own magic, to be more selfless, and to start my own traditions. Christmas has come and gone this year, but I wanted to share a few things that my first married Christmas has taught me.

Christmas isn’t about the gifts.

Duh. Maybe I’m behind the learning curve on this one, but it wasn’t until I got married and had to start creating my own traditions that I realized that Christmas is about spending times with the ones you love. There really isn’t enough time in the day, week, month or year to spend with family. And there’s no other time in the year that my entire family is able to be together and laugh, eat and drink, and be ourselves.  I’m learning to cherish these memories and not focus on what I get or who got what present. Besides, the best feeling for me, is watching people open the present I thought long and hard about. The “joy” that people talk about this time of the year, for me, comes from that very moment.

Creating your own traditions is hard, but worth it.

Being newly married, it’s hard to shift your thinking into us instead of me–in everything, but especially Christmas. Our families not my family. The gifts are from us, not just me. I’ve been doing things the “Ellzey” way for 25 years. Now it’s the Josh and Allison way. Decorating the tree, hanging stockings, watching Christmas movies and football games are all different now, but it’s our different and it’s a wonderful thing!

I don’t feel like these lessons are that ground breaking, but they are lessons I had to learn on my own and in my own time. I hope you all had a very Merry Christmas–I know I did!

  • It was our first married Christmas too, and I had a very hard time not doing things the way my family always does. Same with him. We both kept talking about “at my house…” We’ll figure it out eventually haha! Hope y’all had a very Merry Christmas!

  • I love this! Our first married Christmas was a success even though we ended up going to my parents for a bit haha.

  • Kaitlyn Fickle Killebrew

    Nick and I loved creating new traditions this year! We were a little late in the game too, but next Christmas will be a lot better I feel!

  • Yes to your second one! The first Christmas (and even the second!) that we were married I had a really hard time making that holiday transition, but now it is so worth it to have our own traditions!

  • These lessons are so true. I definitely didn’t realize it until I was an adult and trying to start traditions with Brad. With this year being the first Christmas that Brad and I were engaged, we decided to start making our own traditions. Making traditions are hard, but they are definitely worth it.